Thursday, November 13, 2014
Back in May, I highlighted Borderline Personality Disorder and mentioned that a family member struggles with this disorder. What I didn't mention in that post is that Steve and I have decided to become leaders (trainers) for the Family Connections course for people who have a loved one with the disorder.
At its best, parenthood is a learn-as-you-go game. You make mistakes, you try something different, you read self-help books, you talk to friends. Armed with love and the best intentions, you do your best.
When you add a child with special needs into the mix, the learning curve can be incredibly steep and the mistakes can feel painful in a way you never expected. Love and good intentions seem insufficient to the challenge.
For us, attending the Family Connections course as learners was a game changer. Rather than guessing (and second-guessing) every decision we made, we had a context and some skills to help us. Within months, things were improving, rather than deteriorating. Instead of going from crisis to crisis, we had stability.
In early December, Steve and I will head to White Plains, New York for a three-day course that will prepare us to help others. And starting in January 2015, we'll be "paying it forward" to others on the same parenting path.
Wish us luck!